The Personality, I have while blogging is different from the personality I have when I’m not. To a great extent, after I started blogging, my personality has changed a lot.
I started to use words to express myself. Those words, helped me to transform my personality. I was on a consulting Skype call with a prospective student.
He told me the following at end of the call
I feel more comfortable after talking to you about my future.
Even though, I can read so many articles in your blog, but I feel more secure and have a clarity about my future career plans.
Which, I believe is true.
Then I realized, the impact I have on my blog reader’s life.
When you make your career, future, life decision based on my words, it’s HUGE. EPIC.
I would have never thought, I would have an impact on people’s life few years back. But, today it’s happening.
I feel satisfied when I’m making a difference in my readers lives.
But, I don’t think, it would have been possible to make same 5 years back.
So, what’s changed in 5 years?
A lot of things.
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Back in October, I spoke about Higher Education to a Final year students in an Engineering College in Tamil Nadu, India.
College Principal asked if can talk to students. Next day when I walked into the auditorium, there were over 400 students.
Yes, over 400 students waiting for me.
Guess what?
I didn’t feel a thing about shyness, stage fear or large audience.
That was a huge change for me.
My uncle asked me after the speech “Did you have stage fear?”
I said “Nope, not for a second”.
I spoke to students for 45 minutes and followed by 10 minutes Q&A.
I transformed myself by expressing myself via blogging.
Transform Yourself
Now, do you want to know how can you transform yourself?
Following lines exactly reflect that experience, transformation I had to go through in this past 5 years
…. when you look into your heart, you’ll see that everyone’s afraid of something… But the corresponding truth is that we all have the capacity to overcome our fears, to make the changes that enable us to meet our goals. And your goal shouldn’t be perfection (which is unattainable, mostly because it doesn’t exist) — instead, your goal should be to constantly evolve your skills and strengths so that you, as an introvert, can survive in this extroverted world.
So if you’re shy or introverted and you think that there’s something wrong with you — something broken that you just can’t seem to fix — you’re wrong. There’s nothing wrong with you at all. You are perfect, just as you are, and you’re ready to work your way up to the stage.
Source – Guide to Public Speaking for Introverted and Shy People
While reading, I realized that I was able to transform myself by doing several things listed by Jonathon Colman.
Some are born great, but some have to work to build greatness and a better you.
I hope, I was able to kick-start your transformation process from this article.
If you think I made a small impact in your thinking process, then “Like” this post in Facebook.
About Raghuram Sukumar
It’s True your articles,blog has a lot of impact on the readers.It’s more than a habit it’s an obsession to read your articles because they help me out in many ways to improve my English skills,Rational thinking.Mainly confidence grows because whatever u write over here is Genuine and i transformed a lot in behavior,my socialistic nature improved.Word Power Made Easy not only improved my vocabulary but also created an enthusiasm to read books. HSB showed the similar impact on me.U r doing a great job,i am proud to be a fan of HSB.
On a lighter note:
Another way to defeat shy nature is to go to a nightclub every Saturday and Sunday. Fast forward few weeks and you will be anything but shy.
Sorry, I meant every Friday and Saturday.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4
this video tells a lot about introverts and their attributes
I really like dis article of urs as shyness nd intoversion are just inner fears which is temporary and not perennial and it can b overcome with strong faith in yourself nd enlightening in ur own strength rather than looking into weakness and sulking about it.
Hi HSB,
DIFFERENCE B/W INTROVERTS AND EXTROVERTS TRANSFORMATION WAS AMAZING EYE-OPENING ONE.
i totally agree with bhala. its not that we need to transform ourselves, but we need to be confident about who we are. that itself leaves a mark on the people we meet. extroverts and introverts both have their equal share of advantages and disadvantages. i being an introvert however have faced some extrovert people who have an perception that i cannot mix properly with people, as if i am not social. this made me feel very bad about myself. and hurt my self esteem. because its not that introverts are not social or are afraid of themselves and are less confident, its not that. we are better off with a few close friends whom w can confide in than with a bunch of friends. this does not mean we are afraid of people or something. its just that we don’t want express our deepest feelings to everybody we know. when i was made to feel and about myself being introvert i did a self analysis and found that its this bad feeling that had affected me by diminishing my self confidence, and i was actually very open and straight forward with my close peers. and from then on i have felt it that any person i have interacted with, i made an impact on them. so whats important making our point clear. doesnt matter whether someone is introvert or extrovert.
well to be serious i agree with bala. not all the introverts ve stage fear or something which can be pointed out as negative.am an introvert myself keeping most of thoughts to myself and have very few friends.am not much interested into making friends nor sharing things with public unless required.but one thing i find is an advantage for introvert is that they can be self dependent and do many works on their own.but again being extrovert is important since introvert has i experienced narrow perspective when stepping into a new field or area and this might be quite niggling and i ve realised i ve to change my attitude in the end
I liked the article and it impacted me to think if I can help any of the prospective students in some manner. You, Mr Raghu Ram are doing a wonderful job. Your blog mostly talk about the Non-med students and their future paths, I am a medical (Dental) student and I have experienced difficulty making career decisions at many points in my life. I am still not settled in my career, but during my journey to US, I have experiences which I think could be a source of help to prospective candidates. Just letting you know I am open to sharing my viewpoint if there is a needy student out there.
Awesome. I have sent an email to you.
Thanks a lot Mr.Raghuram.
Why should introverts transform ?!
In my humble opinion, introverts are best left the way they are. Being an introvert doesn’t necessarily extrapolate to stage-fright and or fear of socializing. It is just that, they don’t want to talk to people all the time. Introverts are usually very good at one thing or the other and they don’t like the limelight – but when times comes for expressing their views they are quite as capable as an extrovert !
Never underestimate the power of an introvert ! They are content with who they are !
People who have to worry, are the ones that feel , ” i should talk to more people.” ” I feel lonely” ” I need to get out more” “I have very few friends” !
Get it ?!
Not all introverts and shy folks have the capacity to be open and friendly when it’s required.
Not to be a troll or anything, but that is kinda my point too !
Not all introverts needs to be transformed – but i guess that goes without saying.
P.s : Whatever i do, i don’t seem to be getting the notifications of any follow up comments !
Bhala – Can you check now? Notification settings looks good in the backend. I have disabled and re-enabled again.
I have a stage Fear!
Thanks a lot for sharing! Its good to know that I can change and I will change my negatives